Social Media: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Social media and I have a love-hate relationship. In fact, I would definitely place us under the ‘it’s complicated’ category on Facebook. If you didn’t know, my full-time job heavily revolves around social media so a lot of my time is spent online, posting on and monitoring Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and various other platforms. I then finish work at 5pm and spend chunks of my evenings scrolling social media, both in a personal capacity and for my blog.


Whilst you wouldn’t know from how much of my free time I spend on it, a part of me absolutely hates social media. As I’m sure so many people are all too familiar with, digital platforms (I’m looking at you Instagram) can often take a toll on your self-esteem, and you can find yourself comparing your looks, following, life to others. I know that it pretty much goes without saying that people only publish the highlights of their lives online, and often the reality behind the camera isn’t as it is portrayed. But as much as we tell ourselves this, it doesn’t really help does it? I mean, it’s hard to believe when you’re being bombarded with pictures of beautiful beaches and stunning resorts and you’re on the way to your 9-5 job in the pissing rain. No matter how bad or disheartened this makes us feel though, we don’t stop scrolling do we?

Since I started my blog around a year ago, I’ve found myself become obsessed with numbers, particularly on Instagram. Watching my follower numbers go up, then down, then back up again with such fixation has become a regular habit of mine, and one that I am trying to break. I don’t want to be one of those people who are constantly staring at their screen, and I do make a conscious effort not to especially when I’m with friends or family. Stressing out about numbers takes all of the fun out of blogging which is why I am trying my best to let it be. Easier said than done, I know. I’ve accepted that I am one of those people who will probably always obsess over the little things, but I don’t want it to have as much influence over me as it is doing now.


Despite all of its flaws, there are so many reasons why I keep going back to it. For a ‘business’ perspective, of course the advantages are endless. Promoting services, attracting new customers and expanding a client base are just the tip of the iceberg, but of course in a personal sense there are also many positives to social media. Whilst it’s not uncommon for people to hide behind a computer screen and use their anonymity to tear others down, I’ve seen so many people supporting their peers and building each other up. It’s so lovely to see comments and feedback from people who, without contact through social media, would be complete strangers.  What’s more, great friendships and even relationships can blossom out of social media – so many people that I know met their partners online which I think is a testament to it in itself.


I find a lot of inspiration thanks to social media. Whether that’s an idea for a blog post, outfit, the next book I should read or restaurant I should visit, photography or even a recipe to (tell my boyfriend to) cook. Everything is available at the tip of your fingers and whilst some see that as a negative, I for one think it’s pretty damn amazing.

DRESS | ZARA (sold out, similar here)

2 thoughts on “Social Media: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

  1. I enjoyed this post. I was quite surprised that you spend all of your work day on social media, and then do it for yourself later in the day. It sounds a bit exhausting.
    I just started posting on Instagram a couple of weeks ago. So far it h as been a pleasant experience, but I can’t say as I get much out of it myself. People seem to like the pictures, but I haven’t got much reaction yet.
    I guess it is like blogging. It takes time to build up that interaction. I have been blogging for a number of years, but things are only starting to come together now. What that coming together will mean, ultimately, I don’t know. I can’t envisage a time when I would be counted as an influencer and be showered with free stuff. However, I can envisage a time when I have lots of people to share ideas about books, travel, and happiness with. Since that was the point, I guess it is okay.


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