A few weeks ago my friends and I were having one of our usual chats at work when somehow the topic of gratefullness came up. It’s a conversation that has stuck with me for some reason and it has put a lot of things into perspective for me ever since, so much so that I thought I’d share it on here.
I’d just like to point out that our office discussions aren’t always this ‘deep’ and thought provoking – I work with three girls so as you can imagine topics range from what snacks are on offer to embarrassing stories and bodily dysfunctions we might be having (it’s safe to say we’ve become very close!).
During one of our conversations one of my colleagues mentioned that to increase your positive vibes you’re meant to come up with a list of five simple things a day that you’re grateful for. Obviously there’s loads of times that when we’re in a bad situation we think of a scenario that would be worse and we’re grateful it’s not happening. But to spend a couple of minutes a day just coming up with a few things you can be thankful for just seemed like a great idea to me. These are literally as basic as I’m grateful I’ve got all four of my limbs, I’ve got a roof over my head or I know I’m going to have something to eat tonight. They’re simple things that we tend to take for granted but often forget that some people aren’t as fortunate to be able to say the same.
This got me thinking that we don’t celebrate the little things in life enough. Sure, if you get a promotion or do great on an exam you’ll be proud of yourself and celebrate with some drinks or a nice meal. I think that sometimes we don’t give ourselves enough credit for the little things in life that we’ve achieved. For example, I learned how to properly chop an onion a few weeks ago (my boyfriend does the cooking – don’t judge) and I was happy with myself. I mean, I’m no onion pro but give me a knife and a chopping board and I’ll give it a good go. I’ve also managed to confidently speak and present in meetings, which as someone who suffers with anxiety is a huge achievement. Even being able to sit through a whole meeting without planning my nearest escape route is something that I’m grateful I’m able to do now, even if I do get the odd feeling of panic.
It’s all too easy in this day and age to put a huge amount of pressure on yourself to perform to your (often unrealistic) expectations. With social media it’s difficult to avoid the horrible trap that is comparing yourself to others, but obviously they’re only going to be showcasing their achievements and good moments online. No one is posting pictures of them hungover crouching over the toilet on a Saturday morning. Maybe I should write a blog post detailing all the lows and unglamorous things that have happened to me throughout the week – the realistic and au naturel blogger!
I’m not suggesting we pop open the champagne at every chance we get (although I’ll drink to chopping onions!) but I think it’s important that we give ourselves the credit we deserve and realise that what we have is to be appreciated and treasured.
Photography by Dan Farrow
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